*The name on this testimony has been changed to protect his identity and privacy.

My name is Ryan, and this Christmas feels brighter than any I can remember. I’m a teenager with three younger siblings and parents who mean the world to me. But last year, I was carrying a secret that weighed me down—a struggle with pornography. I felt trapped and ashamed, constantly afraid that my family would find out and think less of me.

For a long time, I tried to fix it on my own, but nothing worked. The shame kept piling up, and it started affecting how I saw myself and how I interacted with my family. I avoided conversations, withdrew, and felt like I wasn’t worthy of their love.

Eventually, I couldn’t keep it all inside anymore. I told my parents what was going on, and to my surprise, they didn’t judge me. Instead, they supported me in finding help. That’s when I joined Valor, and it completely changed my life.

Through Valor, I learned how to break free from the cycle I was stuck in. It wasn’t just about stopping the behavior—it was about understanding the “why” behind it. I learned how to manage my emotions, build confidence, and focus on things that truly matter. With every step forward, I felt the shame start to lift, and I began to see myself differently—stronger, more capable, and worthy of love.

Now, here I am, a year later, celebrating my first Christmas with a full year of sobriety behind me. Sitting with my family this morning, unwrapping presents, I felt so much joy—not just because of the gifts, but because I feel good about who I am. I know my parents love me and have never stopped believing in me, even when I was working through my struggles. That’s the greatest gift I could ever receive.

I also feel closer to my siblings now. They don’t know the whole story, but I know they’ve noticed the change in me. I’m more present, more patient, and just… happier. I feel like I can be the big brother they deserve.

The best part is the freedom I feel in my heart. The shame that used to hang over me is gone, and I feel so much closer to Jesus and to my parents. I know now that I’m not defined by my past mistakes, and I’m so thankful for the tools Valor gave me to move forward.

To any teenager out there who is struggling with pornography, I want to say this: you don’t have to stay stuck. There is hope, and you can find freedom. It’s not easy, but it is so worth it. The shame you feel can be replaced with joy, and the isolation can be replaced with connection. Don’t let fear stop you from taking that first step.

This Christmas, I’m unwrapping more than gifts—I’m unwrapping a new life filled with hope, love, and freedom. And I promise, you can too.

Family Strategies Counseling Center has actively serviced clients since 2000 in treatment for pornography addiction or sexually compulsive behavior. Our SABR program for adults, Tribe for college, and Band of Brothers for teens can help you! Give us a call at (800) 614-8142 or visit our website for more information: Family Strategies Counseling Center.