As counselors in the SABR program in Scottsdale and Mesa, Arizona, we understand that individuals facing pornography addiction can be a formidable challenge for individuals and their partners. It can create a terrible sense of isolation. The isolation can be overwhelming, affecting not only the addicted individuals but also those living with them. When confronted with intense emotions like anger or fear, it is common for both addicts and their partners to retreat. This retreat can manifest in various ways, from physically leaving social gatherings to seeking solace in a locked room. Emotionally, it often results in silence and the suppression of deep-seated feelings.
Even if you are naturally sociable or spend ample time with friends and family, you may still find ways to isolate yourself subtly. It is a common pattern for addicts to "shut down" and become unwilling to share their inner thoughts, emotions, and experiences on a more profound level.
The "Come Out of Hiding" tool is a simple yet powerful concept: reach out quickly when you feel the urge to isolate. I recommend seeking a skilled therapist with expertise in sexual addiction or supporting partners of sex addicts here in Mesa and Scottsdale, Arizona. Additionally, twelve-step programs offer structured environments for open discussions and safe sharing of your inner struggles. Sometimes, confiding in a trusted friend, family member, or religious leader can also provide a safe outlet. The core idea behind this tool is straightforward: when the impulse to withdraw emerges, take the courageous step to reach out and share your feelings.
Many individuals struggling with pornography addiction and their partners may initially resist this tool because it challenges the patterns of addictive behavior. They might express sentiments like, "I don't do group therapy," or "I can handle this on my own; I don't need anyone's help." It's important to recognize that these statements often stem from rationalization. Pornography addiction cannot be effectively addressed in isolation. If it could, willpower would be sufficient to overcome this issue.
In the journey towards recovery from pornography addiction, embracing vulnerability and breaking free from isolation is a critical step. Reaching out and sharing your experiences with the right support network can be a game-changer in your path to healing.
Family Strategies Counseling Center has actively serviced clients since 2000 who struggle with pornography and sexual addiction issues. Our SABR program for adults, Tribe for college, and Band of Brothers for teens can help you! Give us a call (800) 614-8142 or visit our website for more information: www.FamilyStrategies.org
