The Nature of Sexual Addiction
Sexual addiction is a complex behavioral disorder characterized by compulsive sexual thoughts and actions despite negative consequences. Researchers such as Weiss and Schneider (2015) emphasize that sex addiction operates in a predictable cycle, beginning with preoccupation—a stage where individuals become mentally consumed with sexual fantasies, activities, or pursuits. This stage is not merely about physical actions but a psychological state of hyperfocus on sexual gratification, often described as being in "the trance" or "the bubble" (Weiss & Schneider, 2015, p. 35).

The Preoccupation Stage: The High Before the Act
The preoccupation stage in sexual addiction involves an intense emotional and cognitive fixation on sexual behaviors. This period of anticipation often provides a powerful emotional escape, offering temporary relief from stress, anxiety, or unresolved trauma. Weiss and Schneider (2015) describe this experience:

"Even before sitting down to search for online porn or to seek out potential sex partners, sex addicts are 'high,' meaning the anticipation of the sexual experience leaves them both emotionally aroused and distracted" (p. 34).

This "high" mirrors the euphoric anticipation seen in other addictions, such as gambling or substance abuse, where the anticipation alone becomes intoxicating. The cycle of addiction is fueled not only by the act itself but by the entire process leading up to it.

The Trance and the Bubble: Psychological Detachment
During this stage, individuals often experience a state of emotional detachment from reality, described as "the trance" or "the bubble." This state can last for hours or even days, during which the addict remains mentally absorbed in the pursuit of sexual content or experiences without engaging in actual sexual acts (Weiss & Schneider, 2015, p. 35). This psychological space creates a barrier from real-life responsibilities, relationships, and self-awareness, making it increasingly difficult for individuals to recognize the impact of their behavior.

Breaking the Cycle: Education and Awareness
Recognizing the preoccupation stage is critical for recovery. The Sexual Addiction and Betrayal Recovery (SABR) program at Family Strategies Counseling Center emphasizes the importance of education and structured intervention to help individuals break free from compulsive patterns. Teaching individuals how to identify early triggers, disrupt obsessive thought patterns, and develop healthier coping mechanisms can help dismantle the addiction cycle before it escalates.

The Role of Therapeutic Intervention
Therapeutic intervention is essential in addressing sexual addiction. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), mindfulness-based strategies, and accountability groups such as the SABR program provide structured support. Recognizing preoccupation as a warning sign can empower individuals to take proactive steps, such as seeking therapy, engaging in community support, and using behavior-modification techniques to prevent relapse.

Conclusion
Understanding the preoccupation stage in sexual addiction is key to breaking free from compulsive sexual behaviors. By recognizing the trance-like state and emotional high associated with this phase, individuals can develop greater self-awareness and seek appropriate interventions. With structured programs like SABR and professional therapeutic support, recovery is possible, offering hope and healing for those struggling with sexual addiction.

Family Strategies Counseling Center has actively serviced clients since 2000 in treatment for pornography addiction or sexually compulsive behavior. Our SABR program for adults, and Valor groups for young men can help you! Give us a call at (800) 614-8142 or visit our website for more information: Family Strategies Counseling Center.

References
Weiss, R., & Schneider, J. (2015). Always turned on: Sex addiction in the digital age. Gentle Path Press.